Today is my birthday and I'm being showered with flowers, gifts, texts, Facebook posts and various well wishes from all over. All of which I'm very grateful for and for the people in my life who've taken time to wish me well.
If I'm being 100% truthful, this has been a particularly strange few months.
Some great things. Other challenging moments. Many hard lessons and some incredible things I'm grateful to have experienced.
I'm a mom of two young adults – one about to graduate from college. The other in his post grad year experiencing life out of the nest.
On top of that I'm married to an entrepreneur and I'm an entrepreneur myself.
So running two businesses out of the home and helping our kids settle into their lives at times feels as though I'm taking 20 steps ahead and 10 steps back.
And learning how to balance it all – well, that has definitely been a bit tricky this year.
On one hand I've been so happy to see my husband grow his business – but sharing space and figuring out his new business has been a struggle at times.
And while we're happy that our son is having an incredible post grad experience, I miss him terribly every single day.
And with our daughter about to graduate from college, I'm finding myself a bit sad because it feels like life flew by too fast.
And while our final college payment has come and gone, we've now got student loans kicking in.
And even though business has never been better, finding time for self care has been a constant challenge.
And although I'm grateful for the life I have, I've found myself at times needing to retreat, not wanting to be online, protecting myself and being more reclusive.
While I've been going through this up and down time, my mojo has been up and down as well.
Knowing myself as I do, I took a few steps back and started to pay attention to ways I could take better care of myself.
After a little while I started wondering why my mojo wasn't returning. So at that point I started reaching out to others to figure out what might be going on.
Turns out that I needed a little time to grieve the loss of having our kids at home and adjust to our new normal.
I've been fortunate to have experts in my life helping me learn how to get my mojo back and figure out what's most important to focus on.
Some things I've done have helped more than I can express and I want to share what they are and how they've helped:
- Remove judgement – I've put more pressure on myself than I should. Judgement, whether self inflicted or coming from external sources has no place in your life or business. Sometimes you're going to lose steam. Sometimes you're not going to be in the groove. Just know it's part of what you need right now and don't be too hard on yourself. You'll find your way back and if you can't do it on your own, seek help.
- Find moments of happiness – I've had a lot of moments of sadness this year. Watching your children leave the nest is hard, especially when you're very close to them. Although I miss the kids very much, I take joy in the moments we have together. I don't work when they're home. I give them full focus when they call and I'm always looking for more ways to be together. Creating boundaries around my schedule has helped as has delegating more to my team. Doing more doesn't serve you. Taking care of yourself will.
- Prioritize simplicity – I tell my clients this all the time. You don't need to DO more to earn more. You have to do the right things – focus on revenue generation and lead generation. If you do nothing other than that you will have a very profitable business. It's when all the other thoughts and tasks come into play that we get derailed. Do less, you'll earn more.
- Leave a positive footprint – I've had a very difficult time being online this year. I don't like the negativity and feel that for some it's causing more anxiety and depression than ever before. I limit my time online and when I am there, I choose to focus on positivity. If the online vibe is messing with your mojo – create more filters. Set a timer to limit your time. And unfriend or unfollow people that cause you more stress.
- Sleep and self care – the more you sleep and take better care of yourself the better you're going to feel. I know when the kids first left the next in January I made up for their loss by heading right into work. Within weeks I was burning myself out – so I slowed down and took more time for myself. Now I go to bed before 11pm every night, take a bath a few times a week, walk with a friend once a week and stopped watching tv within an hour of bedtime. Together this small self care practice has helped me feel better about myself and help me get my mojo back.
So that's it – I just wanted to let you know that we all go through moments in our business and life that can be challenging, but when we know how to get through them we can get back into action faster and feeling like ourselves again.
Have you noticed a shift in your mojo lately? How has it impacted your business? I'd love to hear in the comments below.